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Clutter and Facebook

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The decision to quit Facebook wasn't a decision I made quickly or on a whim.  I guess you could say I've been thinking and talking about it for months.  Maybe even years.  Anyone else ever feel like so much of our time, energy, and thoughts are taken up by Facebook?  I sure was. 

About a year ago I took Facebook off my phone.  After finding myself checking it before sleeping, checking it first thing in the morning, and checking it when I should have been watching my kids play...I took it off my phone.  I never regretted that decision and I don't think I'll regret deactivating my official Facebook either.  

Last year, my friend and I made a pact to not check Facebook for a month.  We did it.  We went a month and then challenged each other to another month.  So we spent a full day on Facebook (in between the two months) and successfully 'logged off' for 2 months.  It felt great.  

So, after months of being logged back on, the same feelings and thoughts kept creeping up on me.   Thoughts about people that honestly, I don't really know.  But I was thinking about them because they came up on my Facebook feed.  Negative thoughts, annoyed thoughts, you name it...kept coming into my life.  And you know what?  I didn't like it.  I didn't like feeling or thinking about all these things that I really didn't need to be feeling or thinking about.  It was time to focus on my own life.  My own personal goals and what it meant to me to be more present in my every day life.  

My business account was one of the reasons that kept me saying to myself, 'You can't go off Facebook! How will customers find you?  What if they have questions?'.  Well, guess what? I realized that the customers and people who want to find me will.  I'm not offline at all.  I'm still very present here.  I have an Etsy shop, with contact buttons.  I have a Twitter account (Betsy_Farmer) that I barely use, but that will send me a message if I have one.  I have an Instagram account (well, two actually...one for business, one for personal) that I LOVE.  And I'm on Pinterest.  Oh, and I do have an email account...two of those too.  So, I'm still around.  I'm here with multiple ways to contact me.  

A few months back, I began reading "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying UP" and started you know, 'tidying up'.  Then we went on vacation. Then summer started. Then school started.  And the list goes on, right?  The excuses go on.  But the clutter remains.  I thought that decluttering my home and space would help with the overwhelming feelings of always things to do and get done.  But then I realized it's not just those things that needed cleaning up.  My mind needed clearing.  The little things needed to be cut out.  The mind clutter.  And sorry, but Facebook contributed to that mind clutter.  

As a working mom, I have enough to focus on.  Not only my business but all the other things that go along with being who I am.  A wife, a mom, a daughter, a friend....those things need my attention.   I do hope that no one takes me leaving Facebook personally.  It's not personal to anyone but myself.  Time is needed to focus on what's really important to me right now.  Some may say that Facebook doesn't have to take up too much time.  But if I added up all the times I would sit at my computer and check it because I had a spare 5 minutes...those 5 minutes really add up.  Adds up to time I could be doing something much more productive, whether physically or mentally.   

Maybe some day I'll activate my account again.  If I do, all my photos will still be there and so will my friends.  Or at least the friends who matter.  The ones who don't mind that I'm not on Facebook.  But for right now, at this time in my life, I'm good with this decision.   

I'm looking forward to freeing my mind up.  Freeing my time and being intentional about how I spend it.  Freeing it from the clutter and focusing on what matters most.  Like pumpkin spice lattes, a good book, and sweater weather.  

~Betsy